“You can refuse to be the victim. Prejudice is just ignorance…and you have a chance right now to teach them.” -Glee
Who would have ever thought that watching an episode of ‘Glee’ would relate so closely to my own life and experiences? While talking to Blaine, his newest friend and first true reciprocated romantic interest, Kurt gains some of the greatest words of wisdom I’ve heard about prejudice in quite some time.
Watching Kurt struggle to find acceptance, feel confident, and find love all at the same time, I am quickly reminded of the past two years of our lives. Much like Kurt, Loman and I are completely self-aware. We know who are and are incredibly comfortable with ourselves and our love for one another. However, in today’s society, while our relationship doesn’t seem to prove bothersome to the general public, there are still a significant number of people who feel as if our relationship is not only unacceptable but in some cases unbiblical. We certainly don’t receive the unjust, harsh criticisms that homosexual couples do, but it does hurt to know that to many people, our love for one another is repulsive and disgusting merely due to the difference in the color of our skin.
During the first couple of months of our relationship, though we both knew deep in our hearts that we were meant for one another, we allowed others’ thoughts and negative opinions of our relationship to rule our thoughts and in many cases our actions. We suffered greatly then and are still dealing with the repercussions of these circumstances and will likely be doing so for the rest of our lives. However, it is these experiences which have made us stronger not only individually but also as a couple.
Loman and I have refused to be victims. At one point however, much like Blaine is last week’s episode of Glee, we chose to run and in doing so we abandoned our love for the sake of making others happy and in essence taking the easy way out. The past two years have been a constant continuum of ups and downs from which we’ve learned so much about ourselves, our friends, our family, and our society. It’s been a humbling, yet invigorating process reaching to the point in our lives at which we, like Kurt, came to the realization that prejudice is in fact ignorance. Through our testimony, we have been able to teach others about how perfectly capable we are of love–a love which conquers all.